By Lloyd Munyaviri – L2M Coaching & Mentoring
Feeling overwhelmed?
As leaders, parents, professionals or simply as people we often carry the weight of situations we can’t fix. But here’s a truth I share in every coaching room:
🎯 The Three Circles That Shape Your Energy
Take a moment to imagine three circles drawn inside each other:
🔵 1. The Circle of Concern
This is everything that worries or affects you but is outside your control. Think: world events, the past, the economy, gossip, other people’s choices.
🟡 2. The Circle of Influence
These are things you can influence over time like how your team performs, your relationship dynamics, or your work culture.
🟢 3. The Circle of Control
This is where your real power lives. It includes your thoughts, actions, decisions, reactions, and how you choose to lead and live today.
🧠 A Leadership Nudge to Bring It Home
When you're feeling stuck or drained, pause and ask:Is this something I can control? Can I influence it? Or is it just a concern?
Yes be aware of what others are doing. But don’t live there.Don’t give your power away to things that aren’t yours to fix.Instead, focus on what’s real. What’s now. What’s you.
💫 Change Starts with You
Let me say this clearly:
When you focus inward on your growth, your mindset, your boundaries you naturally begin attracting the kind of people, energy, and opportunities that align with who you're becoming. Instead of exhausting yourself trying to fix others, invest that energy into changing you.And in return, you'll reap the benefits: deeper relationships, clearer peace of mind and a life designed around your values not your stressors.
🛠️ Try This: “Focus Where Your Power Lives” Activity
Want to feel more empowered this week? Do this 3-step reflection:
Step 1: Brain Dump
Grab a notebook. Write down all the current challenges you’re facing—big or small.
Step 2: Sort the Circles
Draw three circles on a page. Place each challenge into one of the following:
Step 3: Power Plan
From the Control circle, pick 1 thing you can act on today.From the Influence circle, pick 1 relationship or process you’ll intentionally nurture this week.And from the Concern circle, pick 1 thing to let go of for your peace.
🧭 Final Thought:
Leadership, parenting, relationships it all begins with one powerful truth:
