men we need to talk about how we are feeling - Feel It, Name It, Say It With Purpose.
- Lloyd M
- May 9
- 2 min read
Feel It. Name It. Say It — With Purpose.
A blog post by Lloyd | L2MCoaching.com
For generations, men have been told that strength means silence.
“Man up.”
“Keep it together.”
“Don’t be soft.”
"Be A man"
"Only Weak Men show feelings"
And in following those messages, many of us learned how to hide, but not how to heal. We learned how to explode, but not how to express. We built emotional armour so tough that even we can't break through it.
At L2M Coaching, we believe it’s time to change that narrative—without swinging to extremes. Because yes, men need to talk and we need to feel. But we also need to do it with purpose with emotional intelligence, with self-respect and with respect for others.
🧠 Talking Isn’t the Problem.
How we talk is the issue.
Venting without filters can feel like release but when it spills into blame, bitterness or toxic language, it doesn’t just hurt others. It reinforces the very cycles that harm us too.
That’s why emotional expression needs tools, just like physical strength needs training. Here are a few we use at L2M Coaching to help men express themselves safely, clearly and powerfully.
🌀 1. The Emotions Wheel: Name It to Tame It
Most men weren’t taught emotional vocabulary beyond “fine,” “angry,” or “stressed.” But what’s beneath that? Are you disappointed? Embarrassed? Grieving?
The Emotions Wheel helps break big, vague emotions into more accurate terms. And when you can name what you feel, you’re no longer at its mercy. You can respond intentionally instead of reacting impulsively.
🌬️ 2. Breathing Techniques: Regulate Before You React
Ever said something in anger and regretted it later? You’re not alone.
Using simple breathwork tools—like box breathing (4-4-4-4) or the 4-7-8 technique—calms your nervous system. It creates just enough space between your feeling and your response to make a better choice.
That pause? It’s powerful. It’s where leadership lives.
🧍🏾♂️ 3. Respect as a Standard, Not a Limitation
At L2M Coaching, we don’t believe in censoring men. We believe in coaching men to communicate with courage and care. That means:
✔️ Expressing truth, not trauma dumping✔️ Speaking boldly, not bitterly✔️ Venting with clarity, not cruelty
Because when men learn to speak well, we build stronger relationships, lead with emotional intelligence, and model healthy masculinity for the next generation.
💬 So Yes, Talk. But Talk With Purpose.
You deserve to be heard. You deserve to feel. You deserve spaces where you can be vulnerable without shame. That’s what we’re building at L2M Coaching.
But let’s raise the bar—not just for the conversations we have, but for how we have them.
Let’s be the kind of men who talk.And the kind of men who listen.And the kind of men who lead with both strength and softness.
👉🏾 Explore tools, coaching programs, and safe-space circles at L2MCoaching.com.Let’s talk. Let’s grow. Let’s lead—together.
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