Beyond Active Listening: Why Presence Watching and Listening Matters More Than Ever
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Lloyd Munyaviri
EMCC Accredited Coach
👀 Are We Watching—or Just Capturing? By Lloyd at L2M At a recent football match, I caught myself doing something familiar recording...
👀 Are We Watching—or Just Capturing? By Lloyd at L2M
At a recent football match, I caught myself doing something familiar recording clips of my son, taking pictures, updating family and friends. After all, it’s what many of us do. We want to celebrate moments and share the joy with others.
But then I paused and thought: What am I actually capturing and what am I missing?
That question hit hard. Because in the act of recording for others, I realised I wasn’t fully present myself. I wasn’t truly watching I was documenting. And that same pattern shows up in so many areas of life: in meetings, in coaching sessions, in conversations.
We might be seeing, but not really watching. Listening, but not truly hearing.There but not really here.
🎯 What Are We Missing?
In our effort to capture or respond, we often miss the nuance:
These micro-moments hold meaning. They’re what we, as coaches, leaders and parents, need to notice in order to give accurate feedback, offer support or create growth opportunities.
And yet, if we’re mentally preparing our reply, capturing for socials, or multitasking, we lose those cues entirely.
🔁 From the Sidelines to the Office
This isn’t just a “parent at the pitch” issue it’s everywhere.
In leadership:
In coaching:
In parenting:
True connection and impact is enhanced with what we notice beyond the obvious.
🧠 Beyond Active Listening: Presence as a Leadership Skill
We’ve been taught to develop active listening. But what about active watching?
And what if both are part of something deeper?
Presence is not a buzzword. It’s not passive. It’s a deliberate, embodied state of attention + intention.
And like any high-impact skill, it can and must be practised.
💡 Reflective Questions for Coaches & Leaders
As you move through your next conversation, match, or meeting, pause and ask:
You might be surprised at the richness of what’s always been there just beyond the surface.
🛠️ L2M Coaching: Helping You Lead with Presence
At L2M Coaching & Mentoring, we work with leaders, coaches, and parents to build:
Because true leadership isn’t about performing. It’s about noticing, understanding, and responding with presence.
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